Family

 If we think about a family, different things can be brought up in our minds, depending on our own family or our ideas about a perfect or imperfect family models. Even the smallest chidren can plan their future families in the kindergarten.

 There are small families with one, two or no children, and there are big ones, with more than two children. The number of the members can be influenced by the other relatives living with their children, grandchildren, uncles, aunts, cousins and so on. Even an unmarried couple can count as a family, wether they have children or not? Everything depends on our different points of view.

 In these days the family models are so familiar in developed and developing countries. Npt just the father, but the mother is working, too, in order to insure a happier and better life.

 Nowadays there are not so many differences between the rights and the jobs of a man and a woman, not like about 100 years ago. In the past, people didn’t like the idea of a learning or a working woman, because their task was to stay at home, cook meals, care for the old and the children. They didn’t have so many rights, either. Later, women started to open their eyes and said it’s not enough and not fair against them. They wanted to go to school and to work to provide their families and even themselves a better life.

 So, now a very big percent of the ladies are working, but not just because they wanted, but because they need to work to get enough money in the family wallet. Some people say it’s not good for the children as the got less care from their parents while they are going into kindergarten and see their family only on the late afternoons. Of course, this is hard for their parents too, as they miss their children and can focus less on their jobs while they are apart from each other.

 And again, career or children? If a child is born, who will stay at home to care for him/her? It used to be the mother, but in these days, when everybody is in a shortage of money, people started to decide based upon their salary. An other problem is the reputation. Just imagine that both of the parents are beginner doctors. They have to make a strong and reliable basis, before they just pause it, or give it up. A state-of-art solution is that the grandmother stays at home, because she can care about the young ones, as she also raised up her owns, she is retired and she gets money without working, not like her daughter who just started working and brought a baby to life at almost the same time.

 The next problem is the bringing up of the new life. Clothing, feeding, educating. Everything costs money, except from the love and the goodwill. If you want to care about your beloved ones and you do care about them it doesn’t mean that you can afford everything they need. One of my acquaintances said that the number of your children is inversely proportional to your living standards. I see the point in her words, because when you have a child, you may give everything he or she could need, but if you have two children, you split your money into two, and now you can’t afford every need of your family. Even the ancient Greek people knew these disadvantages, that’s why they didn’t have so many children, because they were afraid of that they could not give the best to them.

 The number of the population grows only in not developed and disadvantaged countries, such as in Africa. It’s not because they would be so wealthy or could care a lot about children, but it’s because they can’t afford medicines and the statistics of the child mortality show deterring numbers.

 While in the better-situated countries the population seems more lowering. In Hungary the couples don’t want to have a lot of children. It’s not because the idea of a big family is not coded deeply in their genes, it’s because they don’t even have enough money to raise up just one child. This is the explanation of why they get more reductions on taxes , community checks and aids to school supplies. Unfortunately, this is not always enough. That’s why the Hungarian society is said to get older, while in Africa, India and Asia becomes younger.

 And here comes the other problem, the overpopulation. This can be seen mostly in the Asian countries, the most outstanding example is probably China. If a couple has one child, they get reductions and aids, if they have two, they have to pay a fine, and for the third child it is abolished to go to school and get educated. This is how they try to reduce the overpopulation and find a solution for the overgrowing society.

 There are seven billion people on this planet and all of us have different plans and model families, but in the end, we make compromises and have similar kinds of connections to each other.